A human baby is completely powerless at birth,
and can perish without the care of its parents. Like God, with Their all-around
power who cannot err, a child with her complete lack of power, can do no wrong. A child is
conceived by the design of God, the giving act of two human parents, and the joining of
their essences.
The child in you and me grows, and incrementally
attains the ability to coo and crawl, to concentrate and follow, to talk and think some
time later. We soon achieve cognition and the power to move ourselves, as well as others
eventually in life.
Oddly, we can now err and do so often.
As we continue to grow, doctrines imperceptibly
embed in us the first virtue selflessness, or self-denial. In one form or
another, self-denial is the ultimate power we're taught to perceive. Many people confuse
this self-denial for self-control, which is a powerful virtue. While it is a power no one
other than the self might attain, self-control does not have to be self-denial.
It would be more inspiring if people fulfill
themselves to the fullest, just short of depriving one another.
That's control. That is power.
Many people later learn, from institutionalized
religions, that self-denial brings them a heavenly body.
Without knowledge, self-denial is mistaken for
self-control. Without understanding, self-deprivation is mistaken for victories over our
desires. Instead of managing our enjoyment for alcohol, some people force themselves to
quit drinking it altogether. Instead of arbitrating with neighbors and friends when
there's a conflict, our tendency is to avoid them. Rather than controlling the selves in
us, many people suppress these selves for as long as a lifetime.
Deprivation, ironically, gives rise to
temptations.
Many people don't fulfill themselves. They
indulge.
While very powerful after they've grown, people
are now relatively corrupt in their fight for so-called self-control and self-indulgence.
Eventually, most people can no longer see their
own essence or the reasons they exist. As they get older, and are laden with
responsibilities, many people begin to rely on tradition, teachings, and religious dogma
to tell them what and who they are. Self-doubt, denial, greed, hate, and envy
progressively shadow self-image, until people can no longer find themselves in one
another.
The answer to this dilemma of self-identity and
intimacy rests, once again, within us.
To understand ourselves, we need to first find
meanings to our mental, physical, psychological, spiritual, and emotional selves in the
individuals that we each are. Recall from The Beginning, "Whether we ever could see
our whole beings before, we had become most visibly physical, mental, emotional,
psychological, and spiritual beings. It's as if we were each, in ourselves, one individual
but no longer singular like God in a way."
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